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Readers, I regret to inform you that this blog is a response to one my friend’s vitriolic rant. if you are not interested, please be advised to stop reading . I never wanted to respond to mindless innuendo's. However, Krishna says one should confront adversity and running away is cowardice. I would have posted a comment in my friend’s blog but fearing the truth, my friend has blocked me from commenting. Where as every one is free to comment here! ;-)

I am not a regular blogger though . One of my friends introduced me to this blogging world where I can write and express myself. I m so glad she did and thankful to her for that. Blogging made me happy and gave me a sense of vivre . Most importantly it made me weigh my thoughts before blurting out ;-)

By the very public nature of blogging, it makes you contemplate over what you are about to blog. More posts of mine have found their way to recycle bin than ending up in blogosphere :-) this is thanks to the sensitivity instilled by this wonderful medium.
By constantly thinking about the effect of words on faceless readers, I have come to appreciate the need to be weigh your words in any type of communication. It is a strange effect considering how much power you are vested with thanks to blogosphere . You remember the tag line of spiderman???

“With greater power comes a greater responsibility”

This friend of mine blogged about an interesting and gripping story about campus crush , making up interesting anecdotes . This is fine as entertainment is fantasy most of the time.

But what was disturbing was referring to real nick names of real people , which can easily be figured out. But why am I disturbed?

What my friend has done is lay bare a chapter of private life restricted to group of friends in public domain. Thrown open the characters of the story up to public scrutiny. Did she take permission from people who are affected by that? No.
secondly without even bothering about by what moral compass public judge the characters, has wantonly discussed about character’s whereabouts.

Lets all understand one thing. Each one of us has a cupboard full of skeletons. What good comes if Pandora’s box were to open today. Let me ask the readers, if your past life is thrown open for scrutiny without your knowledge and permission, how would you feel??
Do you feel happy??
Do you take it sportively???
Or you took it seriously and got hurt????
It depends. Not all are same. Isn’t it???
Not all the fingers in your hand are identical or similar.

As a writer, we need to be socially aware. I don’t buy the humbug of man being a independent entity or creative license. As long as we live in this society, we owe it to society on ethical behavior. I am not talking about morals as morals have too many perspectives. Where as ethics is similar to truth and is unique.

What ethics I am talking about?
Ethically is it right to judge others based on events happened at different time frame and different frame of reference. As the saying goes every saint had a past and every sinner has a future.

Am I a humour killer???
Without talking about people how to make blog humourous. Guys I have come across wonderful blogs which make you laugh and I haven’t seen need to pull people.. Brilliant humour.

Example is domain maximus by sidin vadkut. That guy is amazing. He reminds me of P.G Wodehouse. Let me give an example of his humor. when Obama won Nobel award, he tweeted and his tweet is the most popular among tweeple. Check out


"I just played Solitaire on my computer. And goddammit Obama won that too."

"What is the difference between a Google Wave invite and a Nobel prize? Correct. Anyone can get a Nobel."

Let me stop the monologue and come to crux of the matter.
What made me lose all my moorings and post a comment considered to be harsh, however correct it is.
Why did I lose my nuts?
Let me focus on inappropriate content of the blog under discussion

My friend tells the story about real people using real nick names. That too when the author knew those real characters were best known in the college with their nick names rather the real names. On the top of it, in response to some comment in which it had mentioned that someone had crush on one of her classmates, she replied,
“Am not sure who it is ... Sorry, was it “realname” ???? the girl with flicks?? “real route” route aa ?? if it is her, “marital status” and hs 2 yr old kid now”

Even if she has said things in jest, imagine , if that blog to be read by that person’s relative, and if he turns out be psychotic, what kind of repercussions her life will have .
Babe what were you thinking ???? if you wanna give information which is personal in nature use email or phone or chat .
But using a blog???
definite no no!!!

But the height of hypocrisy is when the person expects that feedback meant for her should be coming through email !!!!!!

Finally who gave my friend the right to discuss about personal stuff in public forum?
Unable to control my anger I wrote the following in her blog, which she has removed. The comment was,

"As internet is accessible by anybody from anywhere in the world, if we give personal information like name, place and etc on the net there are chances that people can misuse the same. At least we should not give such information without the consent of the people. But I see you are doing that in your blog. You write pages about public awareness and as a responsible blogger you should have understood thing but I pity you lacked the common sense.
Learn to respect the privacy of the people and don’t trash people’s emotions in public. Hope you will understand and take the appropriate measures.
Your well wisher”

Was I wrong to post the comment rather than mailing. Yes I should not have let anger control my reasoning and I am sorry. But I don’t regret what I said.
Guess what was reply from my dear friend , I don’t know if the following reply is there in the blog or not as that particular post is now password protected. The following reply to my comment shows how she actually feels for my criticism :-)

“Hold on girl … I am nt sure what u wanna say? Is this revenge u r taking bcoz I hd to cancel meeting u in Blr last time? U cal me a well-wisher and u cud nt understand that I ws hard-pressed for time and cud nt make it. U made an issue out of it and even made me write a sorry post? WTH do u think of urselves? U r nt ready to answer by chat or phone .. u don’t dare do that and u leave such a comment?
I wrote abt a college incident and many ppl cn relate with it? Hd u nt written a false love story abt urself and ur current husband? Which did nt even happen that way?????? U hd even mentioned the company name remember? And for heaven’s sake,I hv nt mentioned anybody’s name here. U and ur friends were the ones responsible for me to lose my friends back then and nw u r bk here again. Use some other form of advertising for ur blog if u need to
And I am what I am; I am not proving to anyone that I hv public awareness or anything as such. So, ppl will read me if they like or push me out. Life does come with miserable pkgs like u too … kya kare
I pity pity pity ur condition
Or is this bcoz u asked me whether u cud write on my blog too and I told u that this is my own space and I want to be the only author. U even told me u came to know there is something like a blog only from me. And now, u r teaching me abt responsibilities and all that? I have never seen another bk-biter like u all my life either in college or @ the workplace. And u call urself my well-wisher? And that other friend of urs, some gr8 DBA who came here to leave a comment, let them all know they r nt welcome to my space and its my wish whom I allow here.
And I hv nthg against V or S. They were my first friends in college and even if they don’t talk to me today or u and ur friends ensured it is so, I can’t be like u and take revenge against ppl. Thank God I hv some values there
In ur place, if I hd a problem with any post, I wud hv written to the person and asked for deleting the post if I ws a real well-wisher!
It’s a light hearted post, which gets conveyed at the very beginning itself.
Everyone goes thru college crushes, friendship, experiences and fun stuff.
Here, no one, even in the comments section, has mis interpreted and/or made “fun” of the person mentioned in the post.
I hope u understood what public awareness exactly means.
Woohoo … one thing I ws missing on my blog ws trolls and nw I have them too I am officially famous now"

I was mesmerized by her creative reasoning :-)
As the readers can see I have been accused of being a friend snatcher. By god’s grace I have been blessed with good friends, never needed to snatch anyone. Friendship is like sand. You hold it too tight it falls off your hand (remember DCH?).
Secondly she has accused me of being a coward not sorting out things with one on one dialogue. But I followed Birbal’s principal and kept quiet. Reader would understand why, if one looks at sample rant left on my chat window by my dear friend.


*******: And bloody girl
u r no one to pity me
I pity u for all that u hv in life
Sent at 11:13 AM on Wednesday
“******: poor u; u dont even dare that

I should have known better. She is a person who once fought with our common friend for leaving a comment on my blog but not in hers. (was she joking ??? might be).
Gimme a break. Comment is not goodie to pass around ;-) . You comment when you feel like ;-) I wonder if she keeps tab on others blog too ;-) sorry for the cheap joke.:-)

I feel pensive at the whole thing. Now I know why the world is the way it is.


Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable. Be honest and frank anyway!!!
Give the world the best you have and you will be badly let down. Give the world the best you have got anyway!!!!
--- (from KARMA Vol. 30 N0. 13)

Adios Senorita !!! God Bless You !!!